In its treatment of Step 10, the AA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions says:

We can try to stop making unreasonable demands upon those we love. We can show kindness where we had shown none. With those we dislike we can begin to practice justice and courtesy, perhaps going out of our way to understand and help them.

Well, yes -- we can try. But we won't succeed -- not unless we're also working Steps 11 and 12. Only from an on-going practice of Step 11 can we access the resources that will change our behavior in Step 10. Only if we've had a spiritual awakening and begun to live the principles in our daily lives will we find the Power to do those things mentioned in the previous paragraph.

None of the last three Steps can be worked in isolation. A dedicated practice of Step 11 all by itself may lead to a closer communion with God as we understand God, but it cannot be a means of watching ourselves each moment (as Step 10 urges in the AA Big Book) or of working with others. And Step 12, worked without reference to the preceding two Steps, merely becomes an attempt to carry the message when we have no message to carry.

The last three Steps come as a package, like a three-legged stool. Take one leg away and the stool can no longer stand up. Steps 10, 11 and 12 gradually become a way of life, if practiced together and simply for their own sake.